Comparing = stealing

So I’m sitting on my couch, looking at our adorable Christmas tree with my daughter on my lap and my hubby is watching Star Wars and I’m over here having a little pity party! What’s my pity party about? While my hubby is watching Star Wars (I’m trying to be interested…but…I’m bored)…so I decided to get on the Facebook. Immediately, I’m reading other’s posts, updates, seeing pictures and what do I do? I compare…I compare myself, my life, my everything to everyone else and who suffers..ME!


If you saw the post title…COMPARING = STEALING…how you might ask? When I compare myself to others, I lose  a part of myself in that my self esteem drops, my self worth is hindered. When I compare my things to other people’s thing, I don’t count my blessings and I become less grateful. When I compare my life to others, I don’t see that my life is exactly what it is suppose to be. So when I compare, I steal from ME! My life isn’t perfect but where would the fun be if it was all daisies and roses…without rain, there would be no rainbow!





Real vs. Fake

So, if you’re like me (hopefully I’m not alone)…you have a hard time finding “REAL” friends. “REAL” friends not “FAKE” friends…what I mean by “FAKE” are the so called friends, who say that they will be there, but end up not being there when it really matters, they are the same ones who are only around during major life events or when they need you. I’m honestly tired of the juggling and mind games. So I’ve decided (it’s been a long journey and not an easy one because I’m a peacemaker, so I want to make everyone happy even if it hurts me in the process…another post later)  that I’m going to be a friend whether they are or not. Now,that doesn’t mean that I’m going to be a doormat. I will be nice and love them even when I don’t want to. Personally, I’m tired of feeling offended or jealous when “friends” all go out to eat or go to the movies or just get together and I’m not invited (takes me back to the good ole’ high school years). So be happy in the small group of friends or the one friend that you might have. So when  your house is messy, the budget is tight, you haven’t taken a shower in a couple of days, and the kids are driving you crazy…true friends will show up, watch the kids so you can take a shower, make you some coffee and sit on your couch in the middle of your laundry pile (probably help you fold it) and show no judgment and chat. In those little acts,  you will find your true friends!